SPWF Loving a Lifer

SPWF Loving a Lifer

For ladies whose loved ones are serving a life sentence.
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This group is for anyone whose loved one is serving a life sentence. It's a special place to come to talk and get support from other ladies who understand what it is like to be serving such a lengthy sentence with their men.

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    Vickie
    Vickie is now a member of SPWF Loving a Lifer.
    2 months ago
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    KNB
    KNB commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    just like to say hi to the new ladies
    2 months ago
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    Mislee22
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    Mrs.Davis1028
    Mrs.Davis1028 commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    Hi everyone.
    2 months ago
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    Mrs.Davis1028
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    Moonlight
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    ToriToes
    ToriToes commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    So today’s sentencing made final wht we feared was coming for the last almost threeyers. Today my love was sentenced to multiple life sentences and then some. I honestly dont know how we are going to make it, im still in shock. To think that i ...
    3 months ago
    • KNB
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      KNB Sorry you are having to go through this, but let me assure you that you are not alone, there are many other strong, wonderful women here travelling a similar road. Though it dosn't feel like it now you will find your way, find what works for the two of you. Till then the best I can offer is that you maintain trust and love for one another, support and draw strength from each other. That and take it one day at a time! Be there for him but take care of you, it can feel overwhelming sometimes,
      3 months ago
    • ToriToes
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      ToriToes Thank you so much. I hope we adjust and he stays safe. We jut got back together after he went to jail. Before he went we were not speaking we had a nasty break up and terrible custody batle and he married someone else who ended up being the cause of his incarceration and while awaiting tral she divorced him and changed his kids names so now although i inow he is the love of my life And father of my child wvery so often i get angry and say or think we wouldnt be here right now if he hadnt left me while pregnant for her ( although i knew we were toxic for each other at that time and we both needed to grow up) i also feel guilty over the deal that he passed up because I insisted that he keep fighing and even hiring him an attorney (a really bad one) unfortunately. Guilt and regret are the worst
      3 months ago
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    Cellane
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    Bridget
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  • KNB
    by KNB 2 months ago
    just like to say hi to the new ladies
  • Mrs.Davis1028
    by Mrs.Davis1028 2 months ago
    Hi everyone.
  • ToriToes
    by ToriToes 3 months ago
    So today’s sentencing made final wht we feared was coming for the last almost three years . Today my love was sentenced to multiple life sentences and then some. I honestly dont know how we are going to make it, im still in shock. To think that i will be spending the rest of my life without his touch and of course i worry about t him and our kid.
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 7 months ago
    My love made a friend and I’m so happy for him. It’s not easy to do in prison. The dude has 10 years left on his sentence. I know it must have sucked for him not being able to talk to anyone really. My love doesn’t like to do a lot of small talk if you don’t have something to say worthwhile he doesn’t want to hear it.
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 7 months ago
    Hey everyone how are we all doing.....just checking in
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 9 months ago
    Sooooo my love called me yesterday morning to say he got moved to another Pod and now gets contact visits. It's through bars but I will take it. He also got a job which he's been waiting for a very long time. I'm so beyond excited!!!
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 9 months ago
    KNB I agree. He just amazes me that he can continue to be true to himself
    After the ugliness he has seen and now being locked up basically 24 hours a day. I know he has a lot on his mind I've told him before he can share with me. I know he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to add stress to me. He always tell me I can tell him
    Anything good or bad. He's a fighter and survivor like me.
  • KNB
    by KNB 9 months ago
    Glad you had a good day :) It can still surprise me sometimes that they can be the ones to lift our spirits and so freely break into laughter from such a hard place. These relationships can be so hard yet such a blessing at the same time :)
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 9 months ago
    KNB thank you for always taking the time to respond
    To me. Today was a good day and I even got a call from
    Him, just hearing his laugh made things much better.
  • KNB
    by KNB 9 months ago
    I suffer from SAD myself though recently I have found that I have the occasional problem with general anxiety as well. It seems that your partner is forgiving and understanding of what you are going through and the issues it may cause eg lack of correspondence, don't put undue pressure on yourself. When suffering from anxiety for myself at least I think the more I feel I HAVE to do something or be a certain way the more difficult I find it is to do it. Take your time with the letters, maybe send a few cards or postcards where you don't feel you have to write so much? I think you need to be more kind to yourself being overly emotional sucks but your going through a fair bit by the sounds of it, besides the life that comes with loving a lifer you have your daughter flying back home, the desire to find a way to be closer to her, your health and work, and that is just what I have read from you recently no wonder you are emotional thats a hell of a lot to deal with, your heightened anxiety may in part be due to having so much on your plate right now your mind just doesn't feel it can properly deal with anything else right now no matter how small or simple. Take care