SPWF Loving a Lifer

SPWF Loving a Lifer

For ladies whose loved ones are serving a life sentence.
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This group is for anyone whose loved one is serving a life sentence. It's a special place to come to talk and get support from other ladies who understand what it is like to be serving such a lengthy sentence with their men.

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    Admin JoJo Matthews
    Admin JoJo Matthews commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    My love made a friend and I’m so happy for him. It’s not easy to do in prison. The dude has 10 years left on his sentence. I know it must have sucked for him not being able to talk to anyone really. My love doesn’t like to do a lot of small ...
    3 months ago
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    Admin JoJo Matthews
    Admin JoJo Matthews commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    Hey everyone how are we all doing.....just checking in
    3 months ago
    • Kristin
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      Kristin Hey tonight has been tough one.
      3 months ago
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    Queen Bee
    Queen Bee is now a member of SPWF Loving a Lifer.
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    BearBear
    BearBear is now a member of SPWF Loving a Lifer.
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    Admin JoJo Matthews
    Admin JoJo Matthews commented on the group SPWF Loving a Lifer's wall:
    Sooooo my love called me yesterday morning to say he got moved to another Pod and now gets contact visits. It's through bars but I will take it. He also got a job which he's been waiting for a very long time. I'm so beyond excited!!!
    5 months ago
    • kkadam
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      kkadam This is great news, I am so excited for you both
      5 months ago
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    AmyJo
    AmyJo commented on the group SPWF Lifer Beauty Group's wall:
    Hi everyone, I have a general, somewhat random question I wanted to ask and see if anyone had any feedback or insight. My baby and I are planning on getting married around October, and then there's the next 30 to 50 years of our lives where he will ...
    2 years ago
    • Nicole
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      Nicole Hey, AmyJo! First off, congratulations on getting married in October!! That's absolutely wonderful :). You honestly don't sound like you're in denial. If you feel content about it and if you're happy, that's all that matters!Taking it one day at a time is one of the best things you can do. But also preparing for the future and thinking of the future wouldn't hurt at all. It'll be a cushion to fall back on for the both of you. I'm figuring out my career still since im in school, and he's going to try and take some college courses to get his degree :). Of course there will be ups and downs, but we all go through it here so you will have plenty of support over here!
      2 years ago
    • Nancie
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      Nancie Congratulations! I think that is woderful.
      1 year ago
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    Ro ❤ CoFounder/President
    Ro ❤ SPWF Owner/CoFounder/CEO commented on the group SPWF Lifer Beauty Group's wall:
    Nicole.... I know EXACTLY what you mean. I tried to explain it once and this was the best I could come up with: we live right on the edge of a breakdown all the time. It actually takes a lot of hard work and effort to keep our head above water. To ...
    2 years ago
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    Nicole
    Nicole commented on the group SPWF Lifer Beauty Group's wall:
    Sorry for the venting post, but I need to let this out. I have faith that my boyfriend will one day get out of prison, and I have support and people who believe the same thing. But the ones that say it's impossible is what affects me the most. It's ...
    2 years ago

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  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 3 months ago
    My love made a friend and I’m so happy for him. It’s not easy to do in prison. The dude has 10 years left on his sentence. I know it must have sucked for him not being able to talk to anyone really. My love doesn’t like to do a lot of small talk if you don’t have something to say worthwhile he doesn’t want to hear it.
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 3 months ago
    Hey everyone how are we all doing.....just checking in
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 5 months ago
    Sooooo my love called me yesterday morning to say he got moved to another Pod and now gets contact visits. It's through bars but I will take it. He also got a job which he's been waiting for a very long time. I'm so beyond excited!!!
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 5 months ago
    KNB I agree. He just amazes me that he can continue to be true to himself
    After the ugliness he has seen and now being locked up basically 24 hours a day. I know he has a lot on his mind I've told him before he can share with me. I know he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to add stress to me. He always tell me I can tell him
    Anything good or bad. He's a fighter and survivor like me.
  • KNB
    by KNB 5 months ago
    Glad you had a good day :) It can still surprise me sometimes that they can be the ones to lift our spirits and so freely break into laughter from such a hard place. These relationships can be so hard yet such a blessing at the same time :)
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 5 months ago
    KNB thank you for always taking the time to respond
    To me. Today was a good day and I even got a call from
    Him, just hearing his laugh made things much better.
  • KNB
    by KNB 5 months ago
    I suffer from SAD myself though recently I have found that I have the occasional problem with general anxiety as well. It seems that your partner is forgiving and understanding of what you are going through and the issues it may cause eg lack of correspondence, don't put undue pressure on yourself. When suffering from anxiety for myself at least I think the more I feel I HAVE to do something or be a certain way the more difficult I find it is to do it. Take your time with the letters, maybe send a few cards or postcards where you don't feel you have to write so much? I think you need to be more kind to yourself being overly emotional sucks but your going through a fair bit by the sounds of it, besides the life that comes with loving a lifer you have your daughter flying back home, the desire to find a way to be closer to her, your health and work, and that is just what I have read from you recently no wonder you are emotional thats a hell of a lot to deal with, your heightened anxiety may in part be due to having so much on your plate right now your mind just doesn't feel it can properly deal with anything else right now no matter how small or simple. Take care
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 5 months ago
    Ughhhh so I'm totally behind on writing letters. My love hasn't complained nor has anyone else. The thought of even picking up a pen and writing gives me anxiety. I'm not sure what is going on with me lately but I've been emotionally unstable for some time now. Simple things give me anxiety, I get angry, I get sad where all I want to do
    Is cry. I wish it would all go away I don't like feeling this way.
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 6 months ago
    There are days when I'm totally accepting of the fact he has LWOP and other days I'm like what the fudge?? This can't be real. He's coming up on his 2 year mark for being sentenced and hitting his yard. He should be reclassed soon and then will have to wait until something comes up where he can be moved. CO III told him there are some guys that have been waiting a year or more to go to a lower yard. It gives me anxiety because he's in a certain situation that could be bad if they throw him into regular general population. He's approved
    For alternative housing which isn't protective custody but he can't be regular gen pop. It's so strange. However once he gets to a lower yard we may have better chances at contact visits.
  • Admin JoJo Matthews
    by Admin JoJo Matthews 6 months ago
    Ms. LWOP, thank you. I'm sorry you struggle with depression too. It's a beast I tell ya. Sadly I let a lot of things get to me and I had to step a way for awhile. I've been a part of this community in particular for about 5 years now. At the same time I was part of other communities as well. Not all of them are nice so that compounded on top of personal stuff
    and I just couldn't take it anymore.
    Now I'm only part of this community. I struggle to connect with others but this helps.
    I hope you get to feeling better soon.