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In this stage of the process there are so many new feelings going on. We're scared, learning to be alone, learning the judicial system, terrified as to what the future holds for us and our significant others.

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  • Josephine
    by Josephine 20 days ago
    Today is the 68th day my bf has been in county jail. He doesn’t have any prior felonies, just one misdemeanor, but his charges are pretty serious. His PD has not done much to help him, so I started doing my own research and found out a few things that we could try in order to get them to fight for him a little. At least the time spent learning and researching has given me something to do while we continue to wait. The not knowing is the hardest part for me. I read an article where a woman was dealing with a PD who was not interested in helping the person they were assigned to defend. The defendant decided to write the PD a letter asking her to consider for a moment that it were her own family member needing her services. She asked her to please fight for her and to try to remember that she was working for her, not the county that pays her salary. She listed her requests one by one, then in closing, asked the PD to respond to her requests in writing, so she knew that she was being heard, paid attention to, and by putting it all in writing, requesting a response, she at the very least, had documentation of her requests. I thought that was very smart so I urged my bf to write his own heartfelt letter to his PD. She read the letter at their last meeting, and so far, has kept in better contact with both my bf and myself. He goes back to court Friday so maybe she will actually argue on his behalf this time. I think it made her take a little more notice of him than her average defendant anyway. I don’t know. This is all so new and scary and I feel so helpless! I figure it can’t hurt to educate myself about the process and maybe, i might be able to help in some small way. I wish everyone here peace and hope and faith. Godspeed sisters!
  • Funsize
    by Funsize 3 months ago
    I'm wondering if anyone has had to get anything notorized from their SO while they're in. His ex-wife works where he is. He is expecting a refund check that is going to be mailed to her address. He has already stated that she knows how to sign his name. I'm worried he won't even know about her receiving it much less him being to access money. If anyone has some clue, please let me know. Thank you! In advance.
  • sweetheartjenna
    by sweetheartjenna 3 months ago
    by sweetheartjenna 1 day ago
    I haven't been very active sense April when my Boyfriend turned Feoncee had gotten out on bond. His case has not been going super well as he has a public pretender who is a POS. We're working on a change of counsel, and realize we have a long road ahead of us. and his case can potentially continue up until February if this happens. as of current everything is in the air, and feel like we know no more about whats going on then when this case first started. It is a frustrating and agonising experience, as of current we have wills and POA's drawn up but not signed. even being in the preparation for the worst case he does not want to sign the documents until he knows what he is in for bond that I guess it is making memories while we still can. One of the questions that has been running through my mind is if we should get married before incarceration or live with the possibility of having the worlds longest engagement. He does not want to get married and have our marriage associated with this event, at the same time we both agree that neither one of us want to get married in a "jail house wedding" I guess this is two fold. I can use prayers from all my understanding women and also advice on how to proceed with the engagement giving that I am sure some of you have been through this before.
  • Melissa
    by Melissa 4 months ago
    Hi, My name is Melissa and my fiance is sitting a local jail for driving on a suspended license.He has a very large record and they originally offered him 180 days but because I got a dr note that im pregnant and some other letters now there offereing him 90 days.He seems to think continuning to call the states attorney with character witness will cut his plea bargain.Do you agree?
  • Britty1007
    by Britty1007 4 months ago
    I am really going through it mentally. I don't know if I'm ready for October to get here or not. What could have been mere months is going to be years. An F5 refail with 5 years parole left. What the heck was he thinking? I know....he wasn't. I pray the judge sticks with the plea of 2 to 4 and doesn't give him a worse sentence. But then there's the fear of what the parole board is gonna do to him and he's already violated parole before. I mean, he says he never had a reason to change until he met me and I pray he's sincere about that. I will be devoted and faithful throughout all of this. But I will not allow myself to be put through it again once this is all done and over with. I love him, but this is his one screw up. I'm so scared of what's going to happen in October. Prayers and mercy for the morning of October 2nd. Oh, and I haven't heard his voice or seen his face since June 4th. What a nightmare.
  • Cupcake
    by Cupcake 4 months ago
    I'm scared. I'm so damn scared. It's day 61 since he got arrested for an OUI. (He was actually pulled over for an expired inspection sticker) I'm months behind on the rent, we had only been married 2 weeks when all this happened. He now says that the outcome could be worse than we anticipated. (2 1/2-5 years rather than the 6mos-1yr we were praying for)
    He's my soul. I waited almost 40 years to finally meet my other half, WHY? Just WHY?
  • Tmbz11
    by Tmbz11 4 months ago
    Dont even know where to start with my story. Bad situation just got worse when someone decided to try and get my husbamd in trouble and it worked. He was arrested yesterday. He was the "bread winner" I stay home with our twin toddlers. I dont know what i will do, how i will get by. No other support system for me and the kids. Scared out of my mind right now.
  • CaityBaby
    by CaityBaby 6 months ago
    My fiancé was arrested just a couple days ago, days that feel like years. He was already facing his original charge and then they put out some garbage warrant for him and took him in claiming he was running. He wasn't. We were actually planning one of our last camping trips before his sentencing date when they came into our house and took him away from me. We've kept in steady contact but he keeps asking me to call all the these people, and I am more than happy to. Anything to help him. I'm just so overwhelmed because I have no idea what I'm doing. He wants me to try and find him a new lawyer and I said ok. But I don't know the first step to take in even doing so. I'm doing everything I can to stay calm, cool, and collected but I'm constantly on the verge of losing it.
  • sweetheartjenna
    by sweetheartjenna 7 months ago
    My Boyfriend called this morning, after not hearing from him for 3 days this time around. The first thing he asked me was "Are you picking me up Monday?" in witch I had to reply no to. I live in Oregon witch is one of the four states that does not have a Bail bonds system so we have to come up with the money ourselves. Tomorrow will be 60 days in and we are close to having the money but still have a couple more hoops to jump through. So in his frustration he lashed out at me, and started telling me how he is loosing his mind, and how he is starting to feel like he will never get out. He calmed down towards the end of your short 8 minute phone call but he was definitely upset, I told him all I could do is Pray as I always do. and that ended our phone call with a few I love you's after that I went into service and during worship I balled my eyes out and all I could do was pray. I did not even know what to pray for. This road were on is so long and so tiring I just pray for continued streghth
  • TeenaCeeCee
    by TeenaCeeCee 7 months ago
    Waiting for sentencing. Feeling anxious All the time. Up until this point, I have been hopeful & hearing the guilty verdicts changed that - FAST. Although, he's been in jail since 2015, only now am I REALLY feeling the sadness. Reality is setting in.....