SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated

SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated

A group for couples who met during incarceration
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Couples who met while incarcerated (MWI) face a different set of issues and additional judgment from those on the outside. Whether you met through a prison penpal ad, a friend, relative or cellmate; your relationship is just as beautiful as any one else. This is a support group for our SPWF MWI members.

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    Diggz
    Diggz is now a member of SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated.
    2 days ago
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    Sunshine
    Sunshine commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    I'm feeling kind of down and depressed and somewhat hopeless about the situation I am in currently. I'm looking for encouragement from other prison wives. I left the facility where I met my loved one to continue our relationship, especially once ...
    3 days ago
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    Sunshine
    Sunshine commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    I was curious to know of other prison wives that know of any advocacy groups to help if you are having trouble visiting your loved one and knowing your rights. Also, knowing how to advocate if your loved one is having issues inside the facility. ...
    3 days ago
    • Gullah Girl
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      Gullah Girl Depending on what the issues are. You can start by contacting the warden and issuing a formal complaint on your hubby' s behalf. Make sure you do it orally and in a written letter. Also document your conversation and dates of contact. What you were told ect.. I hope everything works out.
      1 day ago
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    Brooke
    Brooke commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    Hey ladies, i dont get on much between work full time and college, but i have a question? As long as me and the hubby are in the same state, there is no reason his PO officer wouldn't let him come home right? Can any1 answer this for me. About a ...
    4 days ago
    • Tami
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      Tami It's up to the warden if someone who is on probation is allowed to visit.
      3 days ago
    • Brooke
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      Brooke Tami, you misunderstood. Thank you anyways.
      2 days ago
    • KNB
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      KNB Hi Brooke I cant help with your question but just wondering if you have tried getting an answer in the after incaceration group there may be some ladies there that will be better able to offer advise about probation etc. Good luck :)
      2 days ago
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    Lady wild
    Lady wild commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    Hey ladies I'm back . I need to get on here more often but I'm 27 so I'm doing a lot of things . I met my baby through a friend . We was friends 4 or 5 years while he was incarcerated. I stop talking to him 2 year because we lost contact but once ...
    5 days ago
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    kkadam
    kkadam commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    Hey Bee nice to hear from you. Sounds like we need a one on one miss lady, I'll message you this week or next I been down with these migraines, and Sunday is Adams last day on parole so I want to do something nice for him. He jumped through all ...
    6 days ago
    • Bee
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      Bee Hey Hun, Yes giirll. Message me! lol I hope you feel better soon!!
      6 days ago
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    Bee
    Bee commented on the group SPWF MWI - Met While Incarcerated's wall:
    Hey everyone, I was offline for a while, I'm so happy people are posting in here!! I love reading updates and intros. So far, shit has been rough and has changed a ton! So this is my update, we met through a pen pal site, wrote for a few months, ...
    9 days ago

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  • Sunshine
    by Sunshine 3 days ago
    I'm feeling kind of down and depressed and somewhat hopeless about the situation I am in currently. I'm looking for encouragement from other prison wives. I left the facility where I met my loved one to continue our relationship, especially once people became suspicious and started investigating. Currently I would not be allowed to visit and not sure for how long. The frustrating thing is that Letters and pictures I have sent (not specifically addressed for me or pictures of me that are identifiable.) They went into his cell and took just those specifically and gave him a slip saying that he did NOT have any contraband but have taken them. He wants to write them up and file grievances but is fearful about retaliation. He also worries they would set him up and cause trouble like they have in the past. He hasn't had any issues in several years. Right now I feel like I will never get to see my love. Right now even the letters are causing issues. I do get phone calls but who knows for how long now. I am fearful for his safety as well. Words of encouragement and advice greatly appreciated!
  • Sunshine
    by Sunshine 3 days ago
    I was curious to know of other prison wives that know of any advocacy groups to help if you are having trouble visiting your loved one and knowing your rights. Also, knowing how to advocate if your loved one is having issues inside the facility. Thank you!
  • Brooke
    by Brooke 4 days ago
    Hey ladies, i dont get on much between work full time and college, but i have a question? As long as me and the hubby are in the same state, there is no reason his PO officer wouldn't let him come home right? Can any1 answer this for me. About a year he'll be home so i just need some reassurrance.. Thanks ladies, much love.
  • Lady wild
    by Lady wild 5 days ago
    Hey ladies I'm back . I need to get on here more often but I'm 27 so I'm doing a lot of things . I met my baby through a friend . We was friends 4 or 5 years while he was incarcerated. I stop talking to him 2 year because we lost contact but once we got bk in contact we took it to the next level. I had problems with girls , they call my fone from Facebook ,all type of shit. I just recommended us to back friends but we both had already felt in love . He prove many times it's nothing but I still accept his apology and told him we been friends for many years , I rather us keep our friendship then mess it over with some bullshit. I knew about the girls in the past. So I just had some insecurities about now that we transition over to the new stage of love. We almost have the same birthday. We are 1 day apart and I saw him this past weekend and it was amazing. I have seen him in 3 months haven't touch him in 8 months due to a write up and they took visitation away , no drama since march and I'm really super excited. Our bond is crazy . We like the same things and our birthdays is 9/11 and 9/12. I'm really happy and very content . I think we had to get an understanding about each other on a different level. Because it was rocky as first . But now I'm so happy, I'm just waiting on him to get out and he wants to get married while I'm there, that's another thing I'm ready for but I don't know he is, I'm really waiting on him to do the paper work because that's when I know he is serious .
  • kkadam
    by kkadam 6 days ago
    Hey Bee nice to hear from you. Sounds like we need a one on one miss lady, I'll message you this week or next I been down with these migraines, and Sunday is Adams last day on parole so I want to do something nice for him. He jumped through all their hoops and did great!!!! Just waiting for someone to give him a call about a job. So I'll get with you
  • Bee
    by Bee 9 days ago
    Hey everyone, I was offline for a while, I'm so happy people are posting in here!! I love reading updates and intros. So far, shit has been rough and has changed a ton! So this is my update, we met through a pen pal site, wrote for a few months, exchanged numbers, he called for the first time back in May. We made it official around cinco de mayo. I fell in love with him by July. I'm not even ashamed. I was super worried about his sincerity and wanted to be sure he was 100% with me. By mid July I was approved for visit. I went to visit him and it was amazing. His energy and our connection was so spot on. That was the 1st day we told each other we loved one another. Even if we didn't work out, I will always love him. The relationship we have, the things we talk about, ect.. He's a good ass friend of mine. He is in a fire camp. It being summer means he's gone all the time. When we first started writing, he told me he could be gone for up to 2 months at a time..If I didn't hear from him he is at a fire. Never to worry and he'd be back. Or he would try to call (if it was a planned trip) the day before..He called me twice this month and sent a letter. Actually since August. I've heard from him twice. It is horrible. I wrote him a letter a few months back and he responded with no answers to the questions I asked. I like to know about past relationships, how long they last and what the weak points are. It kind of tells character, you know? A few other things really bothered me too. But he assured me that he didn't respond about his past relationship because it was over and in the past, He doesn't want to bring it to his current, it doesn't matter. I guess that makes sense also. We still haven't been able to clear up the other stuff because he called on night to tell me he was leaving to a fire really early and I didn't want to bring any negative up, I was just super happy to hear his voice. I'm out of that "new", fresh, unknown, obsessed, sort of mindset now, So I'm not all dreamy and unsure about him. He has 14 months to go, has all of these plans and goals, but I don't fall into them. I mean it would be nice but people change and I have to remind myself that I could be the one to change also. Not focus or worry that he would be the one to change on me. I think a lot of us fear that we'll hold them down and they'll bail on us after all the wait. But WE can be the ones that change lol. I ended up breaking up with him through a letter because I didn't know when I'd hear from him again. I needed closure because of my doubts and naturally I ended things before he did or had the chance to hurt me, I was in this angry, swarm of emotions, thinking with the smallest part of my brain. The day he got the letter was the day he got back from fire. He called me and was freaking out. He said no fucking I could leave him, we laughed about everything was going down. I realized I was being extremely self involved and jumping to conclusions. We soo need a visit after this. Oh, one thing that was reassuring and made me feel a connection to his home life was meeting his friends in person. I always read about people talking with their loved ones families and felt left out or like that meant something more. So meeting his friends kind of did that. He was super jealous his friends got to see me and he didn't.. I should get a visit in October again once the fires are gone. I'll update once we start talking again.
  • Sunshine
    by Sunshine 15 days ago
    @Adee.... welcome! How great for you that you have been able to visit and do the video visits! Those must be amazing! Trust me.. you are definitely not alone in your journey! How did your family react to all of this? I have only told about three people. They are loving but of course concerned I had lost my mind! Stay safe with the weather!
  • Sunshine
    by Sunshine 15 days ago
    Hello ladies and hope you are all having a wonderful day!! Hello there,

    I am an MWI of eleven months. Due to recent circumstances, we are waiting for visitation once he is transferred.... who knows how long that can. Just wondering how long anyone has gone without being able to visit and how did you cope with it? I believe is our relationship... I just want to stay as strong as possible, positive , and of course continue to grow our relationship. Thank you
  • Adee
    by Adee 20 days ago
    @Sunshine I was so excited to find out that Oregon had video visitation! I dislike the fact that they make it expensive to communicate but it's worth it to have that face-to-face time together. Especially since we're so far away and I'm only able to fly out once every 2 months.
  • Adee
    by Adee 20 days ago
    @KNB thank you! I'm so happy to be a part of this group. It really does make me feel better knowing there are ladies who completely understand what I'm going through and who don't judge me for choices that may seem strange to others. :)