sweetheartjenna

sweetheartjenna

40 years old
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Salem
United States
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Today, my heart is broken, it seems yet again my worst fear has come to fruition and they are sending my love to Snake River Correctional Facility in Salem Oregon. Some 400 miles away from me. I have been here long enough to know this is not uncommon as
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    sweetheartjenna
    sweetheartjenna Today, my heart is broken, it seems yet again my worst fear has come to fruition and they are sending my love to Snake River Correctional Facility in Salem Oregon. Some 400 miles away from me. I have been here long enough to know this is not uncommon as I have seen so many wives stuck in the Federal system, and having there husbands transferd thousands of miles away, Somehow, that knowledge that I am not alone in this does not give me any comfort, and as of right now only seems to add to the pain, and torment that I am currently in. I feel like after everything I have learned in Pre Law, and Law school is a lye, everything that our Judicial system and our Corrections system has told the General public is a lye, something to keep the masses turning and the wheels of legal slavery in action. It seems to me, that the DOC starting that access to family is important to the rehabilitation of an offender is nothing more then a ploy to give the families false hope. If our country were really that concerned about the Rehabilitation of an offender, they would try to keep them close to there family. Not move them as far as humanly possible. It pushes me even further to the conclusion of both, the State does not want to rehabilitate an offender, they will do everything to set them up for failure. More so that Families and loved ones are deemed guilty by association. While they can not incarcerate us for such a view point, they do there best to make it as difficult and expensive for the families of said offenders as possible. Until they either, A turn there back on the offender or B can no longer afford to support said offender. I find myself wondering if it is actuallly easier for my love to be put through this then me. While I am not sure how true that actually is, his spirits seem to be much higher then mine at the moment. He has already resigned to the fact that he has no control over his life at this point and he is just along for the ride. For him, as of now the worst is over, and all he can do is wait until his sentence is complete and then do his best to start life anew. For me however things are much more complicated, much less linear. I am the one who seems to be stuck in suspended animation, left to deal with the aftermath, of his incarceration and his crime. Yet still expected to move on with my life, I am not the type to write someone off, as my expenceces seem to sour out of control with phone calls and Commisary and long distance trips to be able to visit him, I am expected to build something for him to come home to. Some days it seems so cut and dry, while other days, I feel completely destroyed, lost and desperately trying to find direction. Days like today, it is much easier to mask my pain with intense anger, and to push through to just continue not to be consumed by this fire. yet, others the pain is so bad, I can barely function. At this point I don't even know if it will get easier, I wonder if the concept of a new normal is in itself a lie we tell ourselves to move forward, to put one foot in front of the next. I guess in all of this, I am struggling, struggling to see the good in the world, struggling to se the just, struggling to be able to find my breath once again.
    14 days ago
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    • Valerie
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      Valerie Ur welcome. We are ALL in this together. We may not know one another, or never meet in person, but we are all navigating this journey the best we know how and any encouragement we can get from one another sure makes it easier and bearable.
      9 days ago
    • Valerie
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      Valerie Our Justice system truly is NOT Just! It's a $ business and they do not care about our loved ones one damn bit. I have stories that I could share but I know you;ve all heard them before. We are all going through this journey dealing with the same shit and just trying to get through each day. I feel so helpless most days, as I'm sure you do and as do ALL these woman on here. Hang in there sweetheartjenna! We are all doing the best we can and are always here for you.
      13 days ago
    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Thanks Valerie
      13 days ago
    • Valerie
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      Valerie Ur welcome. We are ALL in this together. We may not know one another, or never meet in person, but we are all navigating this journey the best we know how and any encouragement we can get from one another sure makes it easier and bearable.
      9 days ago
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    sweetheartjenna My love is still in Coffee Creek, so relieved, I Truly thought it would be to much to bare this week.
    21 days ago
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    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Yeah, sadly I am learning that real quick. That said. I am antisapating Snake River, but preying for Umitlla. So I am learning this, and sometimes you have to just be greatfull for the small blessings in life. This was definitely one of those.
      20 days ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews That’s great news. However with the prison systems always best to be prepared for the worst and hope for the best because they can do anything at any time and not care at all how it add
      21 days ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Affects anyone.
      21 days ago
    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Yeah, sadly I am learning that real quick. That said. I am antisapating Snake River, but preying for Umitlla. So I am learning this, and sometimes you have to just be greatfull for the small blessings in life. This was definitely one of those.
      20 days ago
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    sweetheartjenna
    sweetheartjenna Praying they don’t transfer my husband today, for multiple reasons. Reason number 1 I work 2 retail jobs and this week is already known as hell week, reason 2 is if they move him today it will be 400 miles away.
    21 days ago
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    sweetheartjenna Mrs 21767231
    29 days ago
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    sweetheartjenna First timer in all of this. Is anyone here familiar with Oregon Corrections. My husband is in intake week 4. He just told me he can be there up to three months. Do you know if they are going to tell him where he is going, or will they just take him and have me find out in the aftermath? Also once he gets there will he likely stay there for the remainder of his sentence or is oregon likely to move him around?
    1 month ago
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    • TagsGirl82
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      TagsGirl82 Oh I actually mean when he gets his phone set up at his NEW facility. His account is set up now but every facility they go to they have to set up their voice commands on the phone so they can make calls. It can sometimes take a few days, a week or longer depending on how slow the camp is. I completely understand. My fiance was in intake for about a month before he went to his permanent facility. They took him at like 4am and they told me I would just have to wait until he got settled at his phone set up at the new place before I could find out where he was. but between the notification from SAVAN, keeping tabs on him on the state DOC website and the nice CO's at his intake facility I knew where he was almost the same day.
      1 month ago
    • TagsGirl82
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      TagsGirl82 I am not familiar with Oregon as my fiance is in North Carolina but I do know that they normally will not tell him where he is going ahead of time. They feel it can be a safety risk. He will be taken at like 3 or 4 am and that's when he will know. Depending on how long it takes for them to set him up at his new camp and to get his phone account in order it can take a few days to a week or longer for him to be able to contact you. You can sign up for SAVAN which is technically a site for victims but if you sign up then anytime he is moved or his status changes you will get an e-mail or text (depends on how you ask to be notified). It helped me keep track of him. Also, if you are in regular contact now and you stop hearing from him then most likely he was transferred. You can then call his current place and see if they can look in the computer and tell you where he went. The first time my fiance was transferred the CO's were nice enough to look him up and tell me where they took him. Hope this helps a little. Stay Strong! We are all here for you = )
      1 month ago
    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Yeah, he has been in intake for 4 weeks, has phone and all that. Just waiting on his permanent facility. It seems like Since his arrest life has just been on hold. I get the safety thing, I just want to get to where I can see him.
      1 month ago
    • TagsGirl82
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      TagsGirl82 Oh I actually mean when he gets his phone set up at his NEW facility. His account is set up now but every facility they go to they have to set up their voice commands on the phone so they can make calls. It can sometimes take a few days, a week or longer depending on how slow the camp is. I completely understand. My fiance was in intake for about a month before he went to his permanent facility. They took him at like 4am and they told me I would just have to wait until he got settled at his phone set up at the new place before I could find out where he was. but between the notification from SAVAN, keeping tabs on him on the state DOC website and the nice CO's at his intake facility I knew where he was almost the same day.
      1 month ago
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    sweetheartjenna Today is my birthday. The first truly important day that my love and I have spent apart Sense we became a couple. I never thought I would see a day where all I wanted for my birthday is a phone call from my love. I am facing the fact I have so many of these to fallow before my love finally gets to come home. Well wishes and encouragement is welcome.
    1 month ago
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    • Sunshine
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      Sunshine Happy birthday! I hope that you did enjoy your day! You are strong and will get through these challenging days!
      1 month ago
    • twinkle
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      twinkle Happy Birthday :) I hope you have a nice day and enjoy your phone call
      1 month ago
    •  Admin Cate
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      Admin Cate Happy Birthday sweets!! Treat yourself to something special today!!
      1 month ago
    • Sunshine
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      Sunshine Happy birthday! I hope that you did enjoy your day! You are strong and will get through these challenging days!
      1 month ago
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    sweetheartjenna It’s over, the Pretrial. My love is to spend the next 8 to 10 years in prison. It’s a long road ahead and 3 days in I’m dying inside. Oh what I would do to take this away from him from us. The hard part is the realization that when the judge sentenced him he sentenced me too
    2 months ago
    • Island Girl
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      Island Girl This life is a long road wish i could say otherwise but it is an accurate description of having a loved one incarcerated. Take it 1 second, minute, hour & day at time. Be sure to keep yourself busy! You got this;)
      2 months ago
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      Melissa I know your feeling all to well. My husband just started his sentence of 10 yrs. its only been a lil over a month that we've seen him. and I just found out it might be at least 2 more month before we can visit him. Try and keep your head up stay busy that help too. I thank this group so much because we all know each other pain. Best of wishes to you and your family. I'm here if you need a friend :)
      2 months ago
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    sweetheartjenna Today is my last day of having my guy on the outside. Tomorrow is his sentencing. And he will be away for 8 years on a mandatory minimum sentence. I’m broke. Hearted today.
    2 months ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Enjoy your time together as much as possible. Prayers for you and we will be here when you need us.
      2 months ago
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    sweetheartjenna Well I'm about to become much more active, my husband who has been out on bail plead out. 8 1/4 years 54 months post prison supervision on Oregons Mesure 11 charges. Sentencing is to come on October 6. And he will have to surve every last day. Got a long road ahead and I hate he has to indure this. But I love him and not planning on going anywhere!
    3 months ago
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    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Yeah, Messure 11 takes no factors into account. If your found guilty that’s it. Your done. My love had no previous criminal history and there were set instances to his case that if it were not for m11 he would of gotten out allot sooner. Maybe 2 years. Between that and his pos public pretender. He had no chance
      1 month ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Treasure every remaining moment you have with him, take lots of pictures. We are here to support you so you won't be Alone.
      3 months ago
    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Thanks JoJo. I am as much as possible. I asked him to make videos for me to watch while he is gone. And I just hold onto every last moment I have left.
      3 months ago
    • Lucslady
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      Lucslady Sorry to hear you are having to deal with this. Measure 11 is terrible. It does not take so many factors into account. I understand some of what you are going through. 3 months before sentencing and it does not count. He has to serve the whole time without time served. Oregon laws and sentencing is messed up. You can literally get more time for a measure 11 then killing someone. I did the same thing as you. I asked him to make videos for me and our son and they have helped.
      2 months ago
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      sweetheartjenna Yeah, Messure 11 takes no factors into account. If your found guilty that’s it. Your done. My love had no previous criminal history and there were set instances to his case that if it were not for m11 he would of gotten out allot sooner. Maybe 2 years. Between that and his pos public pretender. He had no chance
      1 month ago
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    sweetheartjenna Heard from My boyfriend yesterday, he was in much better spirits then the day before, the bail money is almost here I should have him home rather today or tomorrow, I can't wait. So today should be my last visit at least for this part of the process. I hope to get him out tomorrow or Thursday morning, Such a long road to go with pre trial, hopefully it will be easier with him home.
    8 months ago
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    • kkadam
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      kkadam Welcome to the family, hope all goes well
      8 months ago
    • sweetheartjenna
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      sweetheartjenna Thank you so much, things are as well as they can be. You know what I mean.
      8 months ago

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My husband was just convinced it Two Oregon Messure 11 charges and is about to serve 8 1/4 years with 64 days already served. It's going to be hard it's going to be a long road. But I believe in better or worse. So I'm not going anywhere.

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