kat

kat

61 years old
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Sedro-Wolley
United States
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Looking for info on Englewood Prison in Colorado. Anyone know about this one?
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    kat Looking for info on Englewood Prison in Colorado. Anyone know about this one?
    2 months ago
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    kat Any wives in Wa. state?
    2 months ago
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    kat Hi, evereyone.... Well, check out my new picture! I dyed my hair today! Compared to the grey hair... I am thrilled with the new look! I am going to see my man tomorrow and he does not know about the new hair colour! :) I can't wait to walk in and see the look on his face. :) I have lost 50 lbs and went from massively grey hair to this in less than a year. I am working on liking my (new normal) because this has changed us a lot and tho I am working on this relationship when he gets home, I have to work on being happy NOW also. When I am missing him, that gets harder... when I am missing him I get mad that this is our lives now. the weight loose and new hairdo is awesome and I am happy about it.it is nice to feel some joy. I can't wait to see him tomorrow, hug him and just sit and talk... it has been a long time.
    3 months ago
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    • Snoopy
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      Snoopy Hi kat, read your comment on where they send SO for treatment. AS far as I know there are only 9 in the states, my husband was sent to Colorado.
      2 months ago
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      KNB I agree the new hairdo looks great, and very flattering to you. Your partner is going to love it you look like a new woman, enjoy that visit.
      3 months ago
    • Funsize
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      Funsize The new hairdo does look great!! It gives ya a little fire. Hope you enjoyed your visit!! Treasure those hugs!! My SO & I aren't able to have contact visits
      3 months ago
    • kat
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      kat thanks ladies.. it is nice to have some upbeat comments. today i have been anxious, angry and sad. somedays are just that way. i am happy I came here today and reminded myself that this too shall pass. Good days and mot so good days. i think i will get out of the house tomorrow. i seem to be down a lot more when i am bored. so off to do something tomorrow. :) Thanks Fiusize & KNB . :)
      2 months ago
    • Snoopy
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      Snoopy Hi kat, read your comment on where they send SO for treatment. AS far as I know there are only 9 in the states, my husband was sent to Colorado.
      2 months ago
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    3 months ago
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    kat has uploaded 3 new photos.
    3 months ago
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    kat Needing a little support tomorrow. I am visiting my man for the 1st time. I am very anxious about this. I don't know what to expect and reading the regulations just does not help me. I will feel better after the 1 st but right now I am a mess!!!.
    4 months ago
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      kat Thank you ladies.... I tell you I was so nervous and so was he! I got the best hug!! :) He said no kissing so that was ok. I didn't get to stay long because I got there later than i had planned and my time line didn't let me stay long. I am so happy I saw him. I have already planned my next visit and now at least the nerves of not knowing what i am doing will be gone. The offices were really nice. Hubby was a bit down so I hated seeing him so low. seeing me was nerve racking for the fist time after he was taken and i found out everything. I did not take a extra outfit Bee... I lucked out that what I wore was fine. I wanted to wear my LulaRoe dress but I wear leggings under it and I saw leggins were on the not approved list so i didn't take that chance. they seemed to be nice. no one get turned away. the lady behind me in line helped me know what to do. where to get my paper to fill out and the locker set up . I look forward to my next longer visit.... my daughter even filled out a visit form today too :)
      4 months ago
    • Jade
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      Jade congrats! it'll be good just dress accordingly and it's always nerve wrecking! :)
      4 months ago
    • Bee
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      Bee OMGGG how exciting. Just stay calm and move with the motions. Did you pack extra outfits? It's going to be awesome!
      4 months ago
    • kruppwife2014
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      kruppwife2014 yea I hope ur visit was wonderful
      4 months ago
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      kat Thank you ladies.... I tell you I was so nervous and so was he! I got the best hug!! :) He said no kissing so that was ok. I didn't get to stay long because I got there later than i had planned and my time line didn't let me stay long. I am so happy I saw him. I have already planned my next visit and now at least the nerves of not knowing what i am doing will be gone. The offices were really nice. Hubby was a bit down so I hated seeing him so low. seeing me was nerve racking for the fist time after he was taken and i found out everything. I did not take a extra outfit Bee... I lucked out that what I wore was fine. I wanted to wear my LulaRoe dress but I wear leggings under it and I saw leggins were on the not approved list so i didn't take that chance. they seemed to be nice. no one get turned away. the lady behind me in line helped me know what to do. where to get my paper to fill out and the locker set up . I look forward to my next longer visit.... my daughter even filled out a visit form today too :)
      4 months ago
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    kat Hi, everyone.... I can't believe how long time has passed, really. At first, it was a slow process due mostly I think to my anxiety of what happened. time passes a bit faster now but it has times where my anxiety still kicks in and things get tough again. my weight loss is steady now. :) I am down to 169 from 215 in December last year. At first, I was dropping way too fast because of my anxiety and I could not eat. I was happy about the loss of the weight but I wanted to fix the stomach issue so when I got to a healthier weight, I could stop losing it. :) I have been pretty steady at losing a little each month instead of a fast drop now. I am happy about that. I make sure to play kick ball with my 10 yr old grandson so I can firm what I am losing. :) I wish it would drop off as I lose it but no... I have to work at that.:) One more thing to do to keep m mind off my situation with the Mr. in my life. I am happy that I am not gaining it back now that it has been 8 months. my stomach still hurts when I forget to take my medicine. lol... don't do that. I didn't get my call on Saturday due to e ran out of $ and I can't add any until Tuesday. he is out of stamps too... so he will call on Wednesday as planned.... how do you ladies handle worrying about your man? I try and keep my mind off where he is and what he is coping with. He never tells me anything about things there. He would not worry me like that. I am going to go see him in about 2 weeks... I have not seen him yet for a few reasons... to be honest, I was so heartbroken, pissed and lost..it took me this long to be able to go. we agreed to phone calls and letter up to now. but we are ready for visits now. :) I don't know how we will end up but for now, we are happy staying in touch. stay in touch ladies... Kat
    4 months ago
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      Jade that sounds like a good thing about your weight loss. im trying to loose weight myself we are in our count down time 10 months. im doing insanity whooo hoo! maaan let me tell you. sometimes i get all crazy in my thoughts and emotions. but i promise you that insanity balances me out! the guy is insane. golly! im telling you it has helped me sooo much to cope with the lock downs. i havent spoken to him in a month. we just write letters. it is so hard sometimes to not hear from him. but this is only making me stronger. i am also taking PROBIOTICS for my metabolism. you should look into it since your having troubles with your belly. i understand, when my man got locked i lost it. but we are in the count down now 10 months left. thank the lord baby Jesus.
      4 months ago
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      kat Probiotics are a great idea. thank you. :) i know about the crazy thoughts and emotions to. Right now is one of my down times. i wlll get over this..
      4 months ago
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    kat Hi, everyone. Thank all of you for your support when I first joined! I think I was in shock for like.. 6 months after this happened...... I have settled down and come to a better place now. I remember thinking when I first joined, "NEVER did I EVER think I would be in this kind of support group!" This group was so supportive of my feelings and I want to Thank you! My world literally imploded the day this happened and I was a wreck for a long time... my daughter and grandsons' live with me so they were here when my husband was arrested... my oldest grandson is on the Autism spectrum and that was very difficult!! I remember when I first joined this group, I thought, "why isn't anyone else as pissed at their loved one as I am"? I saw the stand by your man strength that you ladies have and I did NOT have that strength! I am not as angry and hurt now as I was but that changes from day to day most days. I am on one side of the fence now and in 10 mins, I am on the other side. Life is settling down. The $ is managing so we will be OK. not wealthy by no means but I manage to keep my home and pay most of the bills. I do thank everyone that talked me out of that bad place I was in back then. I am still losing weight but I am seeing my Dr so I am on top of that issue. in 9 months I went from 215-169. I am hoping to stop losing and just maintain a healthier weight now but my stomach hurt, a lot when I would eat so I didn't eat. now that is a little better but I am making sure my Dr knows what is going on. I feel like... I do not need any more problems!!! My grandson has calmed down since all the scary stuff and he even said last night. I can't wait to see Papa! :) Maybe my heart is softening a little now too... :) Thank you, everyone!!! It was scary but 9 months later, We are ok.
    4 months ago
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    kat it's been a little bit since I was here.I have gained a lot in the last 7 months. I have gotten employment that I can handle and I might be on my way to being able to handle this. God, I hope so! When I 1st found this group, I thought how can all these people not feel the am feeling? Everyone was so positive and I was just damn mad and hurt! What did I learn? It takes time!!!! :) I am getting possitive now. I sill have angry days but I don't want a life full of anger and as time goes on, I am learning the smile again after al the stuff we went through. I didn't understand how I could still love him when I was so angry at him. I am going with my heart and loving him... :) he is a good man and my man. :) Goodnight.
    6 months ago
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      kkadam Kat and you sound like you are handling it the best you can...Yes it is his mess, just because you two are married dont mean you have to take it on as well. I look at it like this if the shoe was on the other foot what would he do , how would he react how woulld he be. would he be the way he is expecting for you to be? My Adam have only seeing one another 3 years, we met while he was locked up, long story but a good one, and i ask him the same questions, because he strated trying to be stipulations on me and my time, and we couldnt have that. You take things how ever you need to for how long you need to because he was the one that did this not you. Please feel free to contact me at anytime.
      4 months ago
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      kkadam welcome back, yes it does take time and there is nothing wrong with how you are feeling he messed up your family. and now you have to pick up those pieces and keep it moving. it will be hard some days and others it will be okay, when you are feeling over whelmed just write to your guy and talk to him. just keep the lines of communications open between the two of you, and dont let him stress you out with his needs and wants. take care of you and your household first then him. congratulations on the job. we are here for you.
      6 months ago
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      kat Hi, kkadam.. :) I am not here as much as I should be, it does help me to come here. I remember when i 1st joined thinking, NEVER in my life would I EVER think I would be a part of this kind of support group! I didn't plan this.. my husband of 43 years laid this mess at my feet and most days I thought..I don't even know what to do with this mess... I have learned over the past 9 months.... I do not need to do anything with this mess, this is HIS mess not mine. i just take care of me and my family (for now) and see what happens later... this rocked my life and most days I must admit that I am NOT as forgiving as I hear other wives being... one day at a time right now.. :) I made it this far, I can do it.
      4 months ago
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      kkadam Kat and you sound like you are handling it the best you can...Yes it is his mess, just because you two are married dont mean you have to take it on as well. I look at it like this if the shoe was on the other foot what would he do , how would he react how woulld he be. would he be the way he is expecting for you to be? My Adam have only seeing one another 3 years, we met while he was locked up, long story but a good one, and i ask him the same questions, because he strated trying to be stipulations on me and my time, and we couldnt have that. You take things how ever you need to for how long you need to because he was the one that did this not you. Please feel free to contact me at anytime.
      4 months ago
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    kat I decided to add a new picture seeings how this journey ha aided me to lose 45 Lbs!!! You can tell a lot just in my face. that is the main plus to this tornado I have been thrown. I heard he did his PSR, now more waiting... what comes after th e PSR??
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      twinkle Well done with the weight loss. I wish I could do the same lol
      6 months ago
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      kat Thank you twinkle. My neighbour asked me what my secret was & I said, a nervous breakdown, i don't recommend it.
      6 months ago
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I got a job. That will help me on og so many ways! Now I wan just waiing for the orientation day. :) I am 62 yrs old & needing to restart my career path due to all of this happening.. I am excited tho. I hope I love my job. I don't want to sit around the house & miss him all day. I need to be busy. Maybe time will faster this way.

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    by kat 8 months ago
    Happy Easter everyone..... Today I got dressed up and am just to enjoy the day with my Daughter and grand kids. Have a good day everyone!! I think I am finally learning how to enjoy a day here and there and not be moody all the time. :) Kat