Jalynn

Jalynn

41 years old
January 26, 1977
Female
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As we wake up this Christmas morning, I know that we're all missing some very special loved ones. I'm sure for some of us today is going to be a lot harder than just a "normal" day. People are enjoying their families and for us someone's missing. I know
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn As we wake up this Christmas morning, I know that we're all missing some very special loved ones. I'm sure for some of us today is going to be a lot harder than just a "normal" day. People are enjoying their families and for us someone's missing. I know it can be sad and lonely, some of us will probably shed some tears and there's nothing that I can do or say to make it any better for you or change it. I'm far from an expert, but I have been living this life for quite a few years and I just wanted to put my 2 cents in. Do the best you can today, that's all anyone can ask of you. Feel the way you do. You are entitled to have your sad and lonely moments. You're entitled to shed tears and grieve for the fact that your husband or wife, brother, sister... Whoever it is is not here. And I know some of you are probably saying well I'm going to be around family or friends and they don't know of my situation or they might not understand it, I get that. So you need to find your time...Maybe first thing this morning or this afternoon before you leave to go to a friend or relatives house or even this evening, but you need to find your time to feel the way you need to feel. The other thing I'd like to say is while I'm telling you that you need to feel the way you need to feel, you also need to be mindful of your loved one's feelings too. This is just as hard for them, so be mindful of that. In my experience it's not going to do any good for my fiance to call and for me to be crying on the phone to him. Our loved ones feel guilty and sad. We provide love and support to them, so I just ask that you keep that in mind when you get your calls or you go on your visits today. My fiance says to me, "Baby girl I want you to live life, I want you to be happy and I want you to enjoy things. You need to do that for not only you but for me too... For us! And don't forget to tell me all about it and send me pictures! For those of you that get visits today, Yay!!! I'm so very jealous! Enjoy those visits! For those that are getting phone calls, enjoy that call with your loved one! As for me, my fiance is in transit but also was in the box prior to being moved.... so there is not going to be any phone calls today nor was I allowed to visit because he can't have any visits while he's considered in transit. Total bummer, right. I am okay, though. I miss him like crazy and I've already shed a few tears this morning but I keep remembering what he tells me about being happy and smiling for him. So today is going to be good! Merry Christmas to you all!! I wish you all the very best today and everyday!
    1 month ago
    • MrsK17
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      MrsK17 Merry Christmas and I know your feeling. I want to cry but trying to hold on and be strong
      1 month ago
    • Jason's Baby girl
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      Jason's Baby girl Thank you so much for your encouraging words. They are very helpful at this time. I am having an extremely difficult day as I am actually missing two very important pieces in my world. My fiance is one of the most wonderful men Ive ever met and not having him at this special time is painful however, I just had my ex husband (father of my youngest who is only 7) show up to pick up our daughter for his weekend like normal and I was supposed to pick her up last night for Christmas as this year it is supposed to be my Christmas with her and instead I got a text from him with papers stating that he was granted full and sole custody of her and not to show up or he would have me arrested! He then blocked me so now I can't even call to say Merry Christmas to by baby! The papers say there was a court date on December 5th that I never showed up for and that's how he was granted custody but, I never was notified of this court date! I am devastated and my fiance is so broken up as well as he wants to be here for me physically but can't be and he loves my daughter just like his own. On a plus side I do have a Christmas visit with my fiance tonight , and first thing tomorrow morning I'm heading down to the courthouse to file my own paper work to get my baby back! I will not let my ex's vindictive, evil, actions overtake my entire life!
      1 month ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie I remember going through this two Xmas ago along side with the missed bdays, anniversaries, holidays, and other missed events due to his choices of not being with us, now, it's been a yr since my now husband who's now fast asleep bc he cooked, and cleaned the house bc I worked today and took care of the household while I was gone which he does so well anyways whether I'm scheduled to work or not. Anywho, I remember counting down how many days, weeks we had left b4 it was time for him to come home and now that we've been in our new home 8.5 mos now, it's been the best Thanksgiving, Xmas, and now our 6 yr anniversary the day that we met, January 23, 2012 and our wedding anniversary is November 29, 2016. Has it always been easy?? No, not by long shot, but we're taking in strides and letting God handle the rest. Merry Xmas to you all and have a safe and wonderful upcoming new yrs. Love always, Tommie~~~.
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    • QueenSuga
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      QueenSuga Merry Christmas!its also my birthday today.
      1 month ago
    • QueenSuga
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      QueenSuga Wrong post
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Ladies, I need to vent and I'm also looking for opinions. Tell me, am I overreacting or not? Various times when my man would call we would you know fool around on the phone... Phone sex I guess you'd call it LOL. And then all of a sudden the last couple months he's been like oh I don't want to do it. And I was like why? Is there something wrong with me? Are you talking to somebody else? What? Why all of a sudden? Then he tells me it makes him uncomfortable because of the CO'S are listening and then I guess some of them make comments after they're off the phone. So we ended up having like a little tiff about it because I was upset, I felt like how come I'm not good enough anymore, what's wrong with me? I don't understand. He's is still in same prison, same area, etc. So he was like well what do you think that's all guys in jail think about?  I got my hand and I can take care of things myself, Etc. He made me feel like he don't need me, nor want me....he can handle things in his own. Okay, so now fast forward to today. I got a letter from him and he's telling me about his sentencing last week and the move(he's being moved from federal to state prison). Then in there he's like oh well I want a subscription to GQ magazine and Men's Health and I want individual copies of these porn magazines, and he lists 4 of them. So part of me is sitting here like WTF? Now that you're moving you're going to be all into pleasuring yourself? And what, talking to me on the phone and looking at my pictures isn't good enough? You have to have these magazines? Why? Because they are more attractive than me? What the hell? Do you think I'm overreacting with this? Because I'm almost in tears because I'm so hurt and I feel so disrespected. It's a good thing I can't talk to him for nowI think I would go off on him because I'm so upset and hurt.
    2 months ago
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    • Tommie
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      Tommie @Jaylnn-- Yes hun, I get what you're saying, and it's okay to have your insecurities every once in a while, but don't make him pay for what's happened to you in the past, and that's just it, it's the past. What happened to you then may not be the case of you all now, and with this separation between you two, may need to be something you need to work on b4 he's released. Two, looking at magazines may not be nothing towards you as a person, okay would you still feel the same if the both of you were watching porn together?? If you say yes to that, then honestly, you need to get yourself together okay. Everyone you meet in life isn't cut from the same cloth, and if he disregarded your feelings b4, then maybe you need to fall back and see what happens when the two of you distant yourself from each other,as the saying goes, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" and yes it's true at times, but sometimes ppl's heart may not always be at the right place and time, so therefore do what's best for you, and no matter what, we're here for you okay. Love always, Tommie~~~.
      2 months ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Hey gm Jalynn-- I am so sorry to hear that, but, take a break from him for a little while, after you write him letter explaining how you and how his behavior is making you feel, okay, and once he realizes how distant you've become, hopefully he'll see how childish he's been, and I don't think pleasuring himself and wanting 4 subscriptions to porn magazines is the issue here, I think it's about what he's going through while he's in there. Was he affectionate before he went away? His sentencing and the move could be stressing him out and he's looking for a way to release some tension, nothing wrong with self love, just he has to be careful with the CO's ya know. My husband and I used to do it on a regular and used to receive erotic letters and emails and at the time it added some spice to our relationship/marriage. Communicate with him, communication is so vital in this day and age and personally, I don't think it has nothing to do with "you", I think it has to do with what he's going through okay. Hope this helps some and you have a good day today. Love always, Tommie~~~. PS Talk to him first, don't rule anything out as of yet, wondering how he's gonna be once he's released okay, good luck!!!
      2 months ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Is he allowed porn magazines where he is?? Maybe someone heard something and was teasing him and he got embarrassed and is embarrassed to tell you. Write him a letter when you can and explain to him how hurt you are and how this makes you feel. COs sometimes do listen to calls or at least that’s what I’ve heard and I know they can be dicks as well. I’m sorry you are going through this and I pray you are over reacting and he’s just being totally silly.
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn Thank you ladies for your thoughts. I still carry baggage from past relationships. Yes, I know that's not a good thing and I do honestly trying to let it go. Then something like this happens and those old insecurities and fears creep up. I was in 2 relationships where I did anything and everything, was the best possible woman I could be. I was used, mistreated, nothing I did was good enough...I wasn't good enough. My fiancee knows all of this and has accepted that I'm still working on completely leaving that baggage behind. I wonder if he even stopped to think about how I would feel when asking about those magazines, or does he just not care? Tommie, yes he's always been affectionate. And yes girl, erotic mail/e-nail we've done that! That and what we call play time on the phone definitely spices things up! I can understand what you are saying about everything that's going on. I get that. I feel like why does he need magazines when I've sent him sexy pics and will continue to do so after he's moved. Am I wrong to feel like he should desire me? And he should be turned on by my pictures. That's the thing, Am I causing the past baggage to cloud my thoughts and feelings in this? I want to be good enough, I want to be the 1 he looks at and is turned on by....not some magazine picture. It does bother me some that everything was fine for our phone play time but then all if a sudden it wasn't. If he's uncomfortable though then I can't be upset and I have to accept this is how it is now. What is really bothering me now is these magazines.
      2 months ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie @Jaylnn-- Yes hun, I get what you're saying, and it's okay to have your insecurities every once in a while, but don't make him pay for what's happened to you in the past, and that's just it, it's the past. What happened to you then may not be the case of you all now, and with this separation between you two, may need to be something you need to work on b4 he's released. Two, looking at magazines may not be nothing towards you as a person, okay would you still feel the same if the both of you were watching porn together?? If you say yes to that, then honestly, you need to get yourself together okay. Everyone you meet in life isn't cut from the same cloth, and if he disregarded your feelings b4, then maybe you need to fall back and see what happens when the two of you distant yourself from each other,as the saying goes, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" and yes it's true at times, but sometimes ppl's heart may not always be at the right place and time, so therefore do what's best for you, and no matter what, we're here for you okay. Love always, Tommie~~~.
      2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Finally got a short but sweet quick letter, he got thrown in the box Thanksgiving evening.....over some BS he says. I believe him because he has his sentencing today and was doing his best to behave. While I'm sad at least I know he's ok.
    2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn I posted Season's Greetings photos on my profile, I did a generic And the 1 people requested. If you want it sent to your email, cell phone, etc let me know!
    2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn If anyone is doing Season's Greetings from Around the Workd--I'm from upstate NY, home to the states highest mountain....it's practically in my backyard. If anyone wants to send to my loved ones his name is Jabber.
    2 months ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Ooh oh me I will take one, my love’s name is Joey and I’m Jolene. I’m in AZ.
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn Ok, gotcha
      2 months ago
    • Island Girl
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      Island Girl Aww!! This is so sweet of you & such a great Idea!
      2 months ago
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    twinkle
    twinkle has accepted Jalynn's friend request.
    2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Going on day 4, no calls...no messages. I just pray whatever went down he wasn't involved
    2 months ago
    • Admin JoJo Matthews
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      Admin JoJo Matthews Ughh it’s the worst, I’m praying you hear from your love soon.
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn Thank you, nothing yet...4 days 😞
      2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Really going through it the past few days, no calls...not messages. I'm worried about him :-(
    2 months ago
    • twinkle
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      twinkle Its hard when that happens. I'm going through the same at the minute as my guy was sent to the hole and I'm waiting for a letter. Try and keep yourself busy and when you find yourself thinking about him write letters. I find that helps.
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn Sorry to hear you are going through it too 😞 I'm afraid something happened. Everything was fine, got messages all day Thursday and now nothing since like 3:30 Thursday afternoon.
      2 months ago
    • twinkle
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      twinkle Do you know if the prison is on lock down maybe? That might explain it.
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn I don't know 😟 It must be. In the past though at this prison even though it's been locked down he's been let out to go to work in the kitchen. He's always stopped at the computer or phone real quick to let me know. So I'm pretty worried because it must be bad, so bad they are locked up 24/7 and not even letting the kitchen workers out. I am not a negative person but I can't help but worrying and beung scared, praying he's okay. He has his sentencing next Wednesday and then will be moved. This prison don't ever answer their phone, it just rings and rings....so I can't even call to try to get an answer. Just have to hang in here, keep busy and do my best to not worry so much.
      2 months ago
    • twinkle
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      twinkle Maybe it’s something to do with his sentencing? Does he have to go to court for it? Maybe they take them from the SHU to court?
      2 months ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn His court is right across the street from where he is housed. He walks through an underground tunnel to get from 1 building to the other. How are things on your end, any mail?
      2 months ago
    • twinkle
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      twinkle No mail yet. It’s hard to not worry. But trying to be patient lol
      2 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Goodbye April, another month down! Hello May!
    9 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! It's finally starting to feel like Spring around here!
    9 months ago
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn has accepted HisBabygirl2010's friend request.
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    Jalynn
    Jalynn How do we go about reporting someone we think does not really belong here?
    2 years ago
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    • T Marie
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      T Marie Welcome Browneyes! You can add friends to this site by going to their profile and at the top middle, you will see the Add Friend. Click on that, then click okay and your friend request will receive it and once approves it, ya'll are now friends.
      2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek Hi Jaylynn, doesn't belong here how? Are they a spammer? Send me a private message and I'll look into it :)
      2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek oops Jalynn, sorry
      2 years ago
    • Chrisnali
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      Chrisnali I got a private message asking me to email a person directly because they had something to discuss with me privately.
      2 years ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn Yes Chrisnali....that sounds exactly like what I got!
      2 years ago
    • Jalynn
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      Jalynn I messaged you Squeek. Seems as if Chrisnali git the same message as me as well.
      2 years ago
    • Chrisnali
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      Chrisnali It makes me wonder if they are trying to sell something or trying to cause trouble. Either one, I don't have time for it.
      2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek We've been having an influx of spammers lately, it is helpful if you continue to let us know either on the main wall or in a private message to one of the admins, we really appreciate it :)
      2 years ago
    • Chrisnali
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      Chrisnali Ehh well... They are gone. Profile was deleted. :)
      2 years ago
    • Browneyes
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      Browneyes I'm new to this. How can I add friends?
      2 years ago
    • T Marie
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      T Marie Welcome Browneyes! You can add friends to this site by going to their profile and at the top middle, you will see the Add Friend. Click on that, then click okay and your friend request will receive it and once approves it, ya'll are now friends.
      2 years ago

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My fiance is currently in a Federal prison, MCC New York but will be moved to Southwoods after his December sentencing to finish out his time in a New Jersey state prison.
I feel pretty alone a lot of times because there is not anyone around here that is dealing with having there partner/spouse in prison. I look forward to all this community has to offer and what I can hopefully offer to memebers of this community.

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