Carma

Carma

36 years old
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Hi Everyone, my husband will be released in 62 days and will have to serve 5 years of extended supervision (WI). He had his first phone conversation with the PO handling his supervision and he said it did not go well. She was very condescending towards h
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    Carma
    Carma has accepted Ruby's friend request.
    4 days ago
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    Carma
    Carma Hi Everyone, my husband will be released in 62 days and will have to serve 5 years of extended supervision (WI). He had his first phone conversation with the PO handling his supervision and he said it did not go well. She was very condescending towards him and second-guessed every answer he gave when responding to her questions about his plan when he comes home. Apparently, she drove by our home and still hasn't approved it. She asked him about a job and we have one lined up if she'll approve that, but she told him not to hold his breath. The thing is, we have never gone through anything like this before. As the wife of a felon, how do I protect my rights and as his wife, how do I help and support him? He was about to lose his shit after their call and struggled to hold himself together. He's been away for 4 years and the frustration and uncertainty of his future are weighing heavily on both of us. Thank you for any insight you may have to share.
    5 days ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Hi Carma- I'm so sorry you're down and out today, and it's one of those days you just wanna crawl under a rock and hide there forever. I can say this from experience, as a wife of a ex con, you don't give up hope, you hang in there, and being married to a man with an unfavorable past isn't and hasn't always been easy. Waiting for him for 4.5 yrs and now he's awaiting to be approve of his disability (full blown gran mal seizures with pinched nerves on his lower back) at times from him can be demeaning, so all the finances falls on my shoulders, and thank God for the kids money 3 of the 4 receive monthly income and my sister in law helping us out at times, otherwise we'd be fucked ya know. My now husband Deryck's PO came by in between Aug- Oct 2016 to approve of his living arrangements before his release date November 28, 2016 and we were married at the court house the next morning at the courthouse. As I have said so many times b4, this life isn't for everyone, and everyone we encounter isn't cut from the same cloth so we decide if this is the life we want. I hope all of this makes sense and encouraging to you, stay strong you got this!!! Love always, Tommie~~~.
      4 days ago
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    Carma
    Carma Good morning, Strong Sisters! It has been a minute!! Here's a little update: After spending the last 3.5 years at a medium, my hubby was moved to a minimum about 25 minutes away from me on Wednesday. Today will be our first visit at the new place. He has 3 months left until is mandatory release date, but we're still holding out hope for a little earlier. He sent his petition for sentence adjustment in March, but we haven't received a yay or nay yet... Here's to hoping and praying! Wishing you all a good day, a thoughtful letter, a happy visit, and/or a loving phone call and please know that you are never too far from my thoughts.
    1 month ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Ty Carma, for the update, keep us posted okay.. Love always, Tommie~~.
      1 month ago
    • Christy
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      Christy That is exciting news. I hope you had a wonderful visit and best of luck on a quicker release!!
      1 month ago
    • Carma
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      Carma Thank you, Tommie and Christy!
      1 month ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Gm and yw Carma, anytime!!
      1 month ago
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    Carma
    Carma My hubby's petition for sentence adjustment has been submitted. We're hoping he gets his 85%. Fingers crossed and lots of prayers please!
    4 months ago
    • Snoopy
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      Snoopy You got it!!!! Hope he gets it..:)
      4 months ago
    • Carma
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      Carma Thank you!!
      4 months ago
    • Mislee22
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      Mislee22 God bless you all
      4 months ago
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    Carma
    Carma Hi Ladies, It has been a very long time since I stopped by. I hope you are all doing well. A little update: It's finally our year! About 8 months to go unless he actually gets his 85, then he would be home in about 3-4 months. I bought a house 2 months ago and it is my newest favorite place to be. It is a sanctuary! Sadly, my dad and my grandmother (Dad's mother) passed away within 8 days of each other. My dad's passing was unexpected and very hard on all of us, including my husband. These are the first losses of loved ones we've had to endure while he is away. We're handling it in the best ways that we can: Lots of love, communication, and patience. That's about it for now. Please send positive prayers in our direction if you have a few to spare. Love to you all!
    6 months ago
    • nita
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      nita I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. My husband and I went through our first loss together 2 months ago our best man and it was devastating especially being in their position it's even worse. Prayer. The one thing we relied on was prayer. It's hard enough to do time and death makes it harder. Keep your communication clear and good and all things in prayer. I hope for the best for you and your hubby hopefully he will be home sooner.
      6 months ago
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    Carma
    Carma We can finally say that he will be home in less than a year! Woot! Woot! Three years down, one more to go. Hang in there, ladies!!
    10 months ago
    • TagsGirl82
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      TagsGirl82 Yay!! That;s so exciting! I remember finally getting under that year mark and it's a huge relief. Congrats and I hope the rest of the time flies by!!!
      10 months ago
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    Carma
    Carma Hi Ladies! It's been a LOOONG time since I posted. Just a couple small updates: We're at 1 year and 2 weeks until he comes home and I am currently in the market for a house! I hope you are all doing okay. I do pop in from time to time to see what's up and who the new ladies are. Keep your chin up! Wishing you all a wonderful week of phone calls, letters, and visits.
    10 months ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Good to hear from you Carma and so glad you doing well and things are finally looking up for you, keep us posted, won't be long now.. Love always, Tommie~~~.
      10 months ago
    • JazzJ
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      JazzJ Good luck with your house hunting :)
      10 months ago
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    Carma
    Carma Sentimental thought for the day: (prepare yourselves...) I'm having a lot more fun preparing for our future together instead of preparing for our future apart, like we had to do since that first day when our world turned upside down.
    1 year ago
    • Faith
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      Faith I try to focus on the future as well. Great idea :)
      1 year ago
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    Carma
    Carma has accepted Bee's friend request.
    1 year ago
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    Carma
    Carma Down to 67 weeks! Started at 208... There's a lot to do before he comes home, but it's all positive and exciting! The next big change is finding our new home, but I have about 6 or 7 months to do that. Just keep hanging in there, ladies. Together, we've got this!
    1 year ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Hey Carma we just did the same thing nearly 3 mos ago, moved into our new home together with our kids and after that I graduated from Health Records Coding, and will be attending classes again in the fall, so small blessings turns into big ones, hang in there love, ya got this okay.. Love always, Tommie~~~.
      1 year ago
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    Carma
    Carma Hey there, beautiful, strong sisters! Remember to celebrate how far you and your love one has come. Reflect on the things you know, take shelter in the love you have, and prepare for better days ahead. Remember to focus where you need to, whether it's the next breath, the next minute, the next hour - day - etc. You and your loved ones are doing the best you can with the cards you have. Now go and do something nice for yourself. You've earned it!
    1 year ago
    • Admin Lisa
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      Admin Lisa Love this. We have to remember to take time out for us if we don't we won't have anything left to give. So today ladies take even if it is 5 minutes just for YOU.
      1 year ago
    • kkadam
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      kkadam So wonderfully true, and yes we all deserve something awsome, special. and everyday i open my eyes i thank God that he open my eyes and allowed me one more day, and that day i have my kids and my love who will be home in 3 weeks.
      1 year ago
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    Mrs. White
    Mrs. White commented on Carma's picture.
    I just got the Love stamps today. Lol
    1 year ago
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    Carma
    "Carma" commented on Jo_Reed's Blog "Time for some Tough Love".
    I love you, Jo! Thank you for sharing your time and wisdom with us!
    1 year ago
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    Carma
    Carma Down to 499 days until he comes home. We started with 1,460. The days don't get easier, but they do bring us closer! Closer to being together again and closer as a couple. Have a great day, strong sisters!
    1 year ago
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    • Samie
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      Samie The App is different a few girls from here on in but I'll say it's a lot of young girls that are struggling 😔 U no me positive over negative .......🙋🏼Glad ur doing good & busy with school , prayers to you & ur Hubby who will be home soon as well!!!
      1 year ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Hey Carma-- I remember those days like it was yesterday, and now he's home and been home since November 28, 2016 and life has been nothing but good since he's been out, so anyways, one day closer to your king okay. Love ya girl..
      1 year ago
    • Samie
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      Samie Hey sis how are you .... Wow Q will be home in 12months 💪🏾I been on the app a bit just checking to see who is still here , no sign of Jo or Squeek ? Good all is good and hey Tommie is that you with ur Man home 😍
      1 year ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Gm and yes Samie, that's the love of my life, Mr. Deryck Neil Carl Ross Sr, my handsome man...
      1 year ago
    • Carma
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      Carma Thank you, Tommie! Hey Samie! I've been doing alright. Just finishing up another busy school year. 12 months, really?!?! That is AWESOME! I've only seen Jo on the FB page. Haven't heard from Squeek in awhile. How's the app? I haven't tried it yet.
      1 year ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Oh yw Carma, anytime love
      1 year ago
    • Samie
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      Samie The App is different a few girls from here on in but I'll say it's a lot of young girls that are struggling 😔 U no me positive over negative .......🙋🏼Glad ur doing good & busy with school , prayers to you & ur Hubby who will be home soon as well!!!
      1 year ago
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    Carma
    Carma Well, here we are - another wedding anniversary down and one more to go before he's home. We've been married for 11 years today! We had a nice visit, ate some cake (they have a bake sale there each day), laughed, and reminisced about all the things we've experienced together these past 11 years. The next 11 will be interesting, I'm sure. There's nothing like sharing life's journeys with the one you love, even if it is long-distance. Have a nice weekend ladies. Enjoy those calls, letters, and visits!
    1 year ago
    • Sam
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      Sam That's beautiful. Glad you were able to spend your wedding anniversary together
      1 year ago
    • Carma
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      Carma Thank you, Sam!
      1 year ago
    • Danielle
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      Danielle Aw this makes me happy! I hope one day me and my love can celebrate 11+years together, happy anniversary xx
      1 year ago
    • Carma
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      Carma Thank you, Danielle!! One day at a time, like many things. :-)
      1 year ago

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My husband and I have been together for 18 years, married for 12. He was sentenced to 4 years in State in October 2014. This is not a journey we ever had in our plans, but it is one that we are on now. There are not many people in my circle of family and friends that can identify with what we are going through, but we are very thankful for their love and support. I'm hoping to gain some wisdom from others who are on a similar path with their loved ones.

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  • Samie
    by Samie 1 year ago
    Hey Sis, I have been good and Busy, kinda fell off the site fir a while, I look on the App sometimes but notice it's mostly young girls .... Q is ok just getting the end of our 18 done..... My Mom is coming for Christmas so I put our Lill Tree up
  • Lili
    by Lili 1 year ago
    Hi name is Lili.....

    Wat are some creative letters you sent to loved ones ? I came on here to learn more how to show support and get ideas of more stuff I can send. Make friends really since we all can relate having a loved one in Prison.
  • Samie
    by Samie 2 years ago
    Happy Thanksgiving Sis :)
  • Jo_Reed
    by Jo_Reed 2 years ago
    LOVE that idea with having him write down his thoughts but it might be too filthy to share with y'all! HA HA HA! What a great plan! I'll sure let y'all know how it goes! I'm finishing paying her off on Monday so she can get started with the final edits. She's going to send them all to me in a "digital album" I have printing rights for, and then I'm going to print them up and send 'em! I don't think I can wait another 2 months so I'm going to mail them as soon as they're ready! We'll just have to celebrate a little early! I'm too impatient! LOL!
  • Samie
    by Samie 3 years ago
    Thank you Thank you Sis......I have Butterflies :) Im going to try to restrain myself from jumping into his Huge arms.......Just holding his hand & seeing his face will be Amazing!
  • Kat
    by Kat 3 years ago
    Carma in reply to your post on my wall about my profile pic being adorable thank you! I was having a pretty good hair and makeup day LoL
  • Jen
    by Jen 3 years ago
    How was your vacation?!?! Did you get a chance to truly relax and reduce your stress level? I've been thinking about a beach holiday but don't know if it will truly help or if I just think it will.
  • Jo_Reed
    by Jo_Reed 3 years ago
    Lady! Thanks for the encouragement! I really hope you have a fantastic time in Florida. Pay NO attention to the fact that your suitcase is wiggling! HA HA! :)