Jesse

Jesse

27 years old
Female
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United States
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Hi ladies, So I need some advise some weird stuff happened to me today. Now keep in mind my husband has been locked up since Aug of 2014. Today I had 2 Tdoc ( Tennessee department of correction ) employees show up at my home. They asked me who i was a
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    Jesse
    Jesse Hi ladies, So I need some advise some weird stuff happened to me today. Now keep in mind my husband has been locked up since Aug of 2014. Today I had 2 Tdoc ( Tennessee department of correction ) employees show up at my home. They asked me who i was and if Mr. Kilgore was my husband I stated yes he is and they asked me if he was home and if they could talk to him. Well note at this time I am looking stupid because I am confused. The lady asked me why I looked lost I just stated can I ask what this is about. At that time they informed me they wanted to follow up and find out why he has not been reporting to his parole officer. Now 17 months of being locked up they want to know why ?? I looked at them and informed him of what facility he was in and that they could find him there. They then looked confused and asked how long he has been there. I then informed them how long he had been in prison this time and they stated that they still show him as being on parole. Well my question 1. Is why do you not know he is in prison and in one of their facility 2, Is he not suppose to be back in prison due to them dropping his vop charges ( but while awaiting vop charges he was pending on a theft charge ) 3. Why the hell did it take them 17 months of him not showing up or talking to them for them to come looking for him. This is their job and what tax payers are paying for!!! What the hell TDOC what the hell. I need advice I will be calling on Monday to follow up and see if i need to get a lawyer.
    1 year ago
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      Jesse we did not have a lawyer for the case due to the fact we where seprated at the time he got locked up .. so now I just need to figure out step one and go from there thanks ladies and samie I would die if he got released .. right now we are hoping for parole in 2017 or time served in 2018 with good days
      1 year ago
    • Samie
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      Samie Wow i would of thought please tell me he did not escape ???? Thank God that is NOT the case......I would be calling first thing Monday morning as calm as possible to his Case Manager and if he has a Lawyer.......Cant wait to hear what went down and I bet you two are Praying for a release :) My Husband is serving a mandatory sentence for 4 years now and will be out 2018 with no probation thankd God!
      1 year ago
    • Grifeliz
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      Grifeliz Wow that is crazy. Shows what poor communication the state has. I would definitely look into it tomorrow.
      1 year ago
    • Jesse
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      Jesse we did not have a lawyer for the case due to the fact we where seprated at the time he got locked up .. so now I just need to figure out step one and go from there thanks ladies and samie I would die if he got released .. right now we are hoping for parole in 2017 or time served in 2018 with good days
      1 year ago
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    Jesse
    Jesse All ladies with oa loved one in TN prisons or anyone who wants TN prison news .. Follow my Instagram page tn.prisonwives ....some major stuff going on right now .. Prayer to all the family !!! TDOC needs to get there shit together .. Nothing to to bad other then one man in west tn died and they are on lock down .. Prayers for his family and friends
    2 years ago
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    Jesse Ladies I need someone's help ... My old man recently admitted to me that he was lying to me about not using drugs while being in there ... He was getting money for food and used it for drugs .. This is not the first time he has lied to me and I can tell the full story but in a pm .. I told him today that I'm doing me and he can do him .. I told him he has to show me he wants us to work and I would be right here waiting unless he messed up again I would wake I told him no more money and we are not a couple under a title ... But I feel bad I feel like it will push him to do worse cause I'm all he has left please ladies any advise would help .. Thanks in advance
    2 years ago
    • Pati
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      Pati Sadly drugs are easy to get in prison; it’s a tough thing to get away from. At least he was honest about his drug use; I would also not send money, but food packages instead. Although they trade all kinds of things for drugs, he has to want to stop. Hopefully he will see how important you are to him and he will want to keep you by his side and do whatever he needs to do to make things right. My man does not use now, but he has in the past. He has just signed up for a NA program. We are getting married next year and if we want family trailer visits he will have to be in a program since he was under the influence when he was arrested. Positive thoughts coming your way!
      2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek If you're all he has and you love him than you owe it to him to do the right thing by not enabling him, and it sounds like that's exactly what you're doing, you're putting an end to it. He may not see it right now, but I think you're doing the right thing, and you're still there for him emotionally. I think you're doing all you can. Stay strong :)
      2 years ago
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      Jenny I was married to an alcoholic for 15 years. He always said he was going to stop and then went right back to it and tried to hide it from me. I finally had to realize that I was enabling him because he didn't believe I would ever leave him, much less take the kids away. Even when I did he didn't stop. But, I am in a better place because I walked away and stopped allowing it to happen. You have to do that sometimes. I recommend you find an Al-Anon meeting around you. It is for families of addicts and you will learn a lot about how to improve your own life as well as what your limits should be as far as he goes. Praying for you.
      2 years ago
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      Jo You are not responsible for the choices HE makes concerning his addiction. You absolutely did the right thing to set a HEALTHY boundary for yourself and refuse to send him any more money. You would be helping him kill himself otherwise. It's good that he admitted the truth. Sometimes as MUCH as you love somebody you have to know when to walk away. NEVER, EVER "blame" yourself for doing what YOU need to do in order to be happy, healthy and well-taken care of. Period. We're here, sis!
      2 years ago
    • Jo
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      Jo Heavily, HEAVILY second the advice given above to find Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meetings for family members. IMMEDIATELY.
      2 years ago
    • Jesse
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      Jesse thank u ladies... this really helped.. I will look into the meetings asap .. he sister told me I decided to do it at the wrong time cause of the holidays but she don't even talk to him... so I feel if ur really worried about it u would talk to him right...
      2 years ago
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      Jenny I agree with you. There's really no good time to do it anyway...
      2 years ago
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    Jesse
    Jesse so the hubby called me 8 times tonight and i missed it cause i was at work :( hopefully he calls in the morning before i have to go to work... i miss his voice ... i miss his face ... i hope i get to go see him soon....
    2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek Aw, I hope you get your call soon! I find it really helps us to have a set time that he calls every day.
      2 years ago
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    Jesse sorry i have been extremely busy and not had much time to get on and see how all you wonderful ladies are doing!!! I hope you all are doing the best you can and you are keeping your head held high.... Just always remember you are all beautiful and perfect in your own ways
    2 years ago
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    Jesse So where to start i have not been on here much had a lot going on... the hubby got moved 3 hours away i have been working extra to catch up on bills and working on getting a job for the state... please send prayers our way as we need them now more then ever... on Monday night i got a phone call from my hubbys family i have never meet yet... his father killed him self... i did not know his father personally but i was in shock of how i was going to tell my husband.. but the hospital actually contacted the prison and the chaplin made him aware ...i think he was in so much shock yesterday we had the same convo 3 times if you could please just pray for him and his family.. thanks in advance
    2 years ago
    • Ashley
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      Ashley Keeping your family in my families prayers!
      2 years ago
    • Jesse
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      Jesse thank you so much
      2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek Praying for you both
      2 years ago
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    Jesse
    Jesse Well ladies I'm so excited to share this with you all ... We just found out he has a parole meeting sooner then we thought it is listed for sometime around Feb 1st of 2017 !!!!! I can not express how excited I am we figure 2018 at the earliest !!!! Now let's just pray when the time comes he gets approved got to start on a home plan to send in
    2 years ago
    • Stacey
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      Stacey That is so exciting. I'm so happy for you.
      2 years ago
    • MISSJLH
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      MISSJLH I hope time flies and all goes well!
      2 years ago
    • Jen
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      Jen Yay!
      2 years ago
    • Jesse
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      Jesse thanks ladies I'm so nervous and we still have 512 days looks like I'll be nervous for a while ... yikes .. I hope he gets to come home
      2 years ago
    • SunShine
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      SunShine Wow, that would be an amazing feeling!! I'm happy for you both and hope it all goes well :D
      2 years ago
    • Jesse
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      Jesse well thank you all ladies
      2 years ago
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    Jesse
    Jesse Today has been just one of those days ... I did get to talk to my baby for about 10 mins which made everything better then I come home to deal with a roommate with a bitchy attitude needless to say I want to punch her in the face but I am just praying I don't at this point ... But her fuckinv attitude needs to go the fuck on somewhere !!!
    2 years ago
    • Squeek
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      Squeek I hope today's a better day for you :)
      2 years ago
    • KrisnRandy
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      KrisnRandy Don't punch, then you will be in where your man is! hehe... My babes always tells me not to make quick decisions, cause he needs me on the outside while he is on the inside! Hehe just a little words of wisdom :) xoxo
      2 years ago
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      Jesse I know she just made me so mad lol
      2 years ago
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    Jesse
    Jesse Hey ladies
    2 years ago

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Hey I am Jessica but I go by Jesse. My fiance is currently incarcerated here in Tennessee where we live, He is my everything and I promised to be here tell the end of time so here I am :) We have a 6 year sentence to kill all the time, He will have the chance to parole out, but not sure at this time when that time will be.I am here to try and be as helpful as I can to others and to let you know you are not alone and that there are people out here that understand what you are going through. I personally lost a lot of my friends when i made the decision to be here for my fiance, but its okay I am strong and with me talking to other people going through the same thing has only made me stronger and showed me I have real friends for life now no matter the situation. I hope one day that when I have children that when they grow they will not have to witness people judging a book by its cover or its past chapters. Nobody is perfect so why can we all not be imperfectly perfect together and show the world that we all still do have hearts and can be one. That's my dream key word dream, but what I can show my kids is what there parents went through and the people who supported and helped them and vise verse . Everyone stay strong and know your not alone, If you need to talk I am here :)

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  • Valerie
    by Valerie 2 years ago
    Where in Tennessee do u live? Where is ur fiancée incarcerated? I'm in Knoxville, and my fiancée is currently at WTSP, near Memphis, being transferred soon to Morgan Co. In Wartburg.