Admin Cate

Admin Cate

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Good morning from Montana!! Welcome to all the new members, please click on the start here at the top of the page!! You've come to an amazing support system full of love and encouragement!!
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    Admin Cate Good morning from Montana!! Welcome to all the new members, please click on the start here at the top of the page!! You've come to an amazing support system full of love and encouragement!!
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      Linda So blessed to be apart of such a special group!! Thank you thank you thank you! 😀
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    Admin Cate Hello everyone!! I hope everything is going well for y'all!! It's been a chaotic, hard couple of months to say the least. My grandmother was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer end of August, we did a big family trip to the Oregon Coast in Seaside with about 25-30 of us. It was a bittersweet family vacation. She started oral chemo towards the end of September after her biospy confirmed what she had, sadly she passed away October 1st
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      Island Girl So sorry for your loss Cate. That is wonderful that you got to take a family trip before she passed & with such a big group! Must have been amazing! Hope that with each passing day, you are feeling a llittle more than the day before of peace & comfort with the loss of your grandmother XO
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      Admin Cate Thank you sweets, it was a wonderful family trip full of laughter and love!!
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    Hey just stopping by to say hello and see how things are going? Hope you are hanging in there!!
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    Admin Cate I just want to welcome all our new members to family!! Please check out the group and state forums!!! Reach out if you have any questions or concerns as we look forward getting to know you on this journey!! I haven't been on in a while as you all know life I can get busy! So this may be a long update. We received devastating news this month with my grandmother being diagnosed with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer, she starts oral chemo this week tho. We all went on a family vacation to the Oregon Coast in Seaside, OR. That was what she wanted to do before her health won't allow it. It was a beautifully bittersweet time, there was about 35 of us all together! It hard knowing she may not make it till R comes home in February 2018. R was away twice this summer on Camp Crew- one was for 12 days and this last one was for 23 days in a town 65 miles away from home in small town called Eureka, MT. It made him homesick and have second thoughts about moving to WA state. So we may be sticking around here, we have an amazing support system with my family being around here, My job is going, the state of MT is trying to making HUGE budget cuts with Medicaid which most of our kids with work with are funded thru, we aren't sure what the company may do when the cuts go thru. We shall see what happens. I've been with the company now for 6 years, maybe its time for a change. I love what I do but it can be emotionally exhausting, its a high burn out to work in the mental health field. I hope you all are doing well, stay strong. We are one day closer!!
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    Admin Cate Hello everyone, I hope all is going well!! Vegas was WAY TOO MUCH FUN!! lol, I think I needed another week of vacation to recover from my vacation, LMAO!!
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      Tommie Ahhh!!!!! Now that I gotten blessed with a job as a part time dietary aide and going back to school again in the fall, I can't wait till my family go on vacation, it's longggg overdue.. Love ya and happy 4th of July Sunday
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    Admin Cate Good afternoon all!! I can't believe summer is hear and next week I leave for vaca to Vegas for my uncle's wedding!! I so wish my love was here to go but 7.5 months till he is free!!
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    Admin Cate We are officially in the single digits in our countdown just under 9 months till my love is home!! Stay Strong my sisters, keep fighting the good fight!!
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      twinkle Yay!! So close.
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      angel4umybeloved2020 I look forward to getting to the single digits of the countdown until David comes home. Thanks for the encouragement! I am still fighting...sometimes I just need that extra boost of support and I am glad i have you all! I still have 27 months until his Home Detention date and 33 months until he is free from that prison and all that takes place.
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      kkadam this is awsome news we are just under 40 days....
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February 7th, 2015 had forever changed our lives, no body ever plans to become a prison wife but LIFE HAPPENS!! It was really a blessing in disguise as it not only saved R from a dangerous road but saved our marriage. Heroin is a HORRIBLE drug, we are 2 years into a 3 year bid, I travel 6 hours, 300 miles one way to another state to visit, I have traveled by plane, train, and automobile. This life is a never ending wait for phone calls, letters, emails, visits, parole/probation boards, transfers etc. But I wouldn't change it for anything, this was a huge wake up call for both of us. This is a little blip of time compared to 5,10,15,20+ that we have to live our life together when I does come home. This was our 2nd chance to better ourselves as individuals and together. YES, there are going to hard days where you want to throw in the towel, where you want to stomp your feet because life is just so UN-freaking fair. But as the saying goes " God doesn't give you more than you can handle." We are special breed of women, I have heard plenty of times the good ole " If it was my husband I wouldn't be waiting." or the " IF my husband ever went to jail/prison I wouldn't wait, see ya later, nice knowing ya, adios, bon voyage, sayonara, and however many sayings you can think of. I would never wish this life on anyone, its not easy. While waiting for sentencing and contemplating the " How long am I going to wait for." To be honest- I had put up the number 5 in my head, yep anything over 5 and I was walking away. Harsh, right! If R was given more then 5 would I have really walked away, I honestly don't know. In my own opinion that would be like going into a marriage with the intent of only being married for 5 years. Sounds ridiculous when you put it into the those terms but I have no judgement for people like that- who decide not to wait. I count myself lucky as I can say " one day closer" I can see the number go down every day on my countdown till my love is home. Others aren't so lucky, but they keep fighting the hardest fight, even after all the judgement from family, friends, co-workers, and complete strangers. I give them the biggest Kudos. The world can be a cruel place but when you come here, its full of encouragement, love and support. There is nothing like a sister in SPWF having your back, feeling the joy you feel after a visit, phone calls, and getting mail from your loved ones. They are there to pick you up late at night when you feel so empty as if you can no longer go, when your thoughts get the best of you, to laugh with you at inside jokes with being a prison wife that NOBODY will ever get. For example wanting to throat punch that 1 minute remaining lady!! They are there to celebrate with you when you can finally pick-up your loved one as they walk thru those gates, when they make probation/parole, if their sentences are reduced, when charges are overturned, when their loved one is pardoned or sentence commuted, when your man makes it out of the hole, when you get you phone call and visits back, when you get engaged/married!! To remind you that everything will be okay, take deep breaths when you don't get a phone call you were expecting ( we all think the worst when this happens), or a letter in the mail. We are all humans, we can be quick to judge, to hold grudges, to make impulse choices when angry, sad or just plain emotional as we ride this roller coaster. I meet R in 2006 and the rest is history, we married on September 28th, 2013, when we took our vows I never really knew how true the words " For Better or Worse." till he was arrested, Yes we took vows seriously but till life throws you a hard curve ball to the gut, to actually see if you will for better or worse. I understand that there are worse things that can happen but at this point in our lives this is the worse but the BEST IS YET TO COME!! Keep strong everyone!!

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  • Danny
    by Danny 11 months ago
    Wow, that is a long ways away. I am sorry. I drive 120 to visit my husband in Lewiston right now...so thats nothing :)
  • xtina
    by xtina 1 year ago
    hey Caity! Can you tell me what visits are like for you & R in a min. facility? Dan is in a medium because the minimum is full so he has to wait for an opening. right now we are allow 1 brief hug and closed mouth kiss to say hello and goodbye. only allowed to hold hands on top of the table. I've been in trouble for hugging too long :( So I'm so curious if Minimum is any different?
  • xtina
    by xtina 1 year ago
    Happy Anniversary Caity & R! ps. R is one helluva lucky man to have a woman such as you standing by his side ;)
  • xtina
    by xtina 1 year ago
    I heard "fight song" in my yoga class last night and it totally made me think of you are R! How is your precious family doing?
  • xtina
    by xtina 1 year ago
    hey! So He got transferred today, what exactly is RDU? Thats like booking & processing? When R was in RDU was he able to contact you?
  • xtina
    by xtina 1 year ago
    Hey Caity, Just thinking about your family. Hope you had a great Mothers day :)
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    by Admin Cate 2 years ago