Jaegirlbae

Jaegirlbae

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I thank you ladies for giving the advice you did almost a month ago. I took that break, I took time off from the stress the worrying ... and I am much better health wise as well. I guess I am almost done with this "grieving process" now it is the waiting
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    Jaegirlbae
    Jaegirlbae I thank you ladies for giving the advice you did almost a month ago. I took that break, I took time off from the stress the worrying ... and I am much better health wise as well. I guess I am almost done with this "grieving process" now it is the waiting game. I can not thank you enough for the support and love on here. I cant imagine if this was not available! Keep praying and staying strong ladies. Our men will be home soon and they need us to hold it down until then. Have a wonderful night ladies!!
    7 months ago
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    Jaegirlbae I need some advice ladies! So its been 6 months since my man has been in jail awaiting his preliminary to be announced. Anyway, I am very forunte that I am able to visit him (web cam ) every day (sometimes twice a day) and speak to him on the phone. But these pass couple of weeks I just been feeling very disconnected with him, I feel like I may be loosing interest which is crazy because I love the man and he is the one I am spending my life with but wtf!? I look at him and i just get irritated sometimes for no reason.Is it because I see him every day? Mind you I am a single mother (not his children) of four and still always have time to visit and talk to him with a full time job. I try to keep busy but maybe thats the problem? I feel like I am starting to question everything. What can I do to keep us "alive"
    8 months ago
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    • Tommie
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      Tommie Like most of the women on here said already, it's part of the grieving process, and ask yourself this, would you still feel disconnected to him if he were free and home with you right now? More than likely no, bc you're so used to a routine with him and this maintaining a relationship with him is no joke or laughing matter, nothing to take casually, it's serious, ya know and at one time I was just like you had a roller coaster of emotions and what made our relationship come alive, was we wrote often (more so from him bc of my hectic schedule, kids, school and maintaining the household) although we did have lots of phone sex, lol and now that he's home, things have gotten better slowly for surely esp since we've moved into our new big beautiful home together with the kids (4, mine bio) and life couldn't have been and gotten any better, the same will and can happen to you. It's okay to take a break every once in a while, but let him know this bc men mind's will wander ya know. And I do hope you two can come to some kind of resolution in all of this, praying for you okay love. Love ya, Tommie~~~.
      8 months ago
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      kkadam Sounds like you two may need to talk see if he is feeling the same way. And maybe just slow down on the communication web cam and phone calls for a few days, to miss each other. This type of life is not easy so talk to him and see where it goes.
      8 months ago
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      Monty I was feeling like this a couple of days ago and that's when i had to decide if this was really what i wanted... I wasnt feeling irriated by my love but i was feelingvery disconnected from him. Eventho we talk we video etc i was still feeling very detached because we dont have the intimacy that we once shared and i miss that so much so thats what my issue was and still is. Idk pray about it and also talk to him about i know often i dont tell my guy things because i dont want him to worry or stress or whatever but communication is everything he may be feelong the same way or he may know how to fix it and make you feel better. It sounds weird cuz i use to think well what can he do hes locked up but words are powerful. I would just slow down on the communication pray and see if this is what you really want.
      8 months ago
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      Monty I felt like I was questioning everything even his feelings towards me... So just talk to him sometimes we. Have a tendency as women to overthink things and i know i spend alot of time in my own head trynna figure things out and plan things or maybe it's him sometimes it could just be stress of dealing with the situation. It can feel like a burden sometimes but you have to ask yourself and really make up in your mind if this what you want.
      8 months ago
    • Admin LaSann
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      Admin LaSann It is part the grief process.. You'll go through days where your just not in the mood to deal with the bs. I catch myself getting so ill about what they are cooking. I'm like hey dummy stop having fun as finish your timeout already! I know he's making the best out of a bad situation.
      8 months ago
    • Tommie
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      Tommie Like most of the women on here said already, it's part of the grieving process, and ask yourself this, would you still feel disconnected to him if he were free and home with you right now? More than likely no, bc you're so used to a routine with him and this maintaining a relationship with him is no joke or laughing matter, nothing to take casually, it's serious, ya know and at one time I was just like you had a roller coaster of emotions and what made our relationship come alive, was we wrote often (more so from him bc of my hectic schedule, kids, school and maintaining the household) although we did have lots of phone sex, lol and now that he's home, things have gotten better slowly for surely esp since we've moved into our new big beautiful home together with the kids (4, mine bio) and life couldn't have been and gotten any better, the same will and can happen to you. It's okay to take a break every once in a while, but let him know this bc men mind's will wander ya know. And I do hope you two can come to some kind of resolution in all of this, praying for you okay love. Love ya, Tommie~~~.
      8 months ago
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    Jaegirlbae Hi my friends!Gash it has been awhile since I been on here. Last I wrote that I didnt know how to juggle everything all at once but now I think I got it. We are still seeing each other through web every day and talk on the phone every day. I am thankful I can afford to see him like that. But I know its not going to last for very long. I've learned to finally keep myself busy which took me 5 months to do so ! Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments of crying and venting and so forth. We are still awaiting his pre lim,... I just came to grips that it will be years not months and it has been so hard these pass couple days guys. I guess shit just got real. We will find out soon hopefully, how much time he will be serving. Ladies, remember, we got this!!
    8 months ago
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    Jaegirlbae hello my fellow sisters. It has been awhile since I have been on here please forgive me. I went almost went in to depression a couple weeks ago and just now feeling better. I put myself more into our LORD. Many things have been going great for my children and I from a new job to my personal business starting to get noticed, i always seem to not be happy. I miss my man so much I want to share everything with him and I can't. He's the first person I wanna call to tell him but I can't, It hurts so bad. Although I see him everyday, I always cry because I want him home. I cant seem to keep my mind off of us our future etc..what can I do to keep my mind busy nothing is working ...help
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    Jaegirlbae
    Jaegirlbae I just want to say that i appreciate you all!
    11 months ago
    • KNB
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      KNB It is a pretty great feeling to have such a great group of people to be able to turn to for support isn't it :)
      11 months ago
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      koki Yes it is KNB Keep ip the great suport SPWF
      11 months ago
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      Admin LaSann 💜💜💜💜💜
      11 months ago
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      Forever Mrs. E. :)
      11 months ago
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    Jaegirlbae
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    thank you for your kind words and advice!
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    Jaegirlbae commented on Kitty's wall:
    Thank you
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    Jaegirlbae
    Jaegirlbae hi ladies! its been awhile. Juggling with this new job and the babies and also surviving the holidays took its toll. Me and love are doing good. I found a way to see him everyday after work and talk to him on the phone when he calls! Very blessed. On another note, he tells me that he has been feeling like he's bipolar. Last night he told me he was so angry and so over it that he just started banging his head on the wall and hitting himself. All i can do from my end is to keep him positive and pray. I'm scared that if one day I don't visit him, he can just go crazy. He tells me that it helps him when we see and talk to each other. I dont know what to do. I dont even know if the CO's care or who I can ask for medical attention for him. I'm literally the only one he has ( besides his sister but its rare shes able to visit or answer calls) Ladies, I need your input.
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    • KNB
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      KNB hi :) I thought that I would stop by and see how you guys are doing? better I hope
      10 months ago
    • Kitty
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      Kitty Encourage him to seek medical help or join a program.
      11 months ago
    • KNB
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      KNB Hi Jaegirlbae if you are wanting to seek medical help for him and not sure that he will seek it out himself then you could call and speak with his councellor or ask to speak with the chaplin let them know your concerns and see if they can do a welfare check on him. I know these things can be scary hun but stay strong and know we are all here for you should you need us :)
      11 months ago
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      KNB hi :) I thought that I would stop by and see how you guys are doing? better I hope
      10 months ago
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    by Jaegirlbae 1 year ago
    Today's Thanksgiving. Although I am so thankful for all the things I have and will receive it breaks my heart that I can't spend this joyful day with my baby. I cry everyday and pray for answers which there is no definite time frame for. This is all new to me from visitations to court to lawyer fees. Im so overwhelmed. I know it will get better, I know it will. Thanks for every support SPWF!!